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For this week’s post, I’ve decided upon a bit of a departure from the travel and style guide blogs that are a mainstay on SJ’s Style Compass. Over the last several weeks, I’ve been reconnecting with old friends through a series of inspiring, intimate dinners, and I’ve begun to realize that nearly everyone around me appears to be in a MAJOR state of change. As a result, I’ve also been inspired to turn inward, to think about ways that I can challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone, and to make positive changes in my own life. Whenever I think about change, I always come back to the subject of fear, as I believe fear is (and has been, in my own life) often one of the biggest impediments to enacting truly positive change.
I’ve always been a believer in facing your fears and am a subscriber to the thought that the thing you fear most is exactly the thing you should be doing. There was a time where my absolute fear of public speaking caused paralysis and when I was asked to be a guest speaker on entrepreneurship at USC I politely declined. I thought I could avoid fear by walking around it and saying no to any offer to speak in front of a group. Shortly after the USC invitation, The Learning Annex asked me to teach a three hour class on how to start an accessory company. I was smart enough to see that the universe was giving me opportunities to face my fears and move beyond them. I said yes. Hours before the class, which I had painstakingly prepared for including creating an A-Z manual on ‘how-to’ as well as listing valuable resources (for free!), I lost my voice. My panic was so extreme that it was manifesting itself physically. The show must go on and rather than cancel I looked fear in the face and taught a great class that was deeply satisfying. I taught classes for The Learning Annex in New York, L.A., San Francisco and San Diego for several years and selfishly looked at each class as an opportunity to face down the fear and hone a new skill all the while sharing the knowledge I had about starting a company from nothing. In recent years, I’ve continued to face down the anxiety with a handful of television appearances.
I have discovered that being prepared goes a long way to helping with my anxiety, but more importantly that the love and support I feel from friends and family is what really buoyed me when I thought I might sink. And recently I’ve noted that in almost every conversation I’ve been having I’ve heard women tell me some amazing story about how they are ‘in transition’ or are ‘reinventing’ and how many of them have connected with communities that are inspiring them to make change and do the impossible with their businesses and personal lives. They are throwing fear out the window and realizing how it doesn’t serve them. If change is the only constant, I am seeing it everywhere I look now. People moving, getting out of relationships, moving into new partnerships, downsizing, having children, losing parents, getting sick, getting healthy, changing careers, selling it all and seeing the world, moving to another country, creating and inventing new businesses and new ways of doing business, leaving the known for the unknown in everything and embracing it.
I’m inspired to stop talking about it already and start a salon at home where friends share experiences, ask questions, motivate, inspire and support. It seems I’m not alone in this movement and I’m excited to embrace the change that is inevitable, and to surround myself with like-minded people who have an equal desire to improve the quality of their lives and relationships. Below are some of the resources I’m currently tapping in my quest for inspiration and everything good.
Read: The 4-Hour Work Week. If this book doesn’t kick you in the ass and make you laugh while doing it I don’t know what will.
Do: Juicing. I received a juicer for Christmas and ever since, I have been obsessed and amazed at how much healthy I can put in my body in thirty seconds or less.
Listen: Daft Punk. The grooves on Random Access Memories inspire me to get moving and keep creating.
Role Model: Gwyneth Paltrow is ‘the person whom I most admire’ at the moment. Rather than talking about reinventing, she is enhancing the rich life she already has by adding author, fitness guru, and app designer to her already impressive resume as actor and mother. Say what you want, but there is no denying that this is one woman who is going for it.
Do: Join a CSA (Community Supported Agriculture). If you’re unfamiliar, here it is in a nutshell: a farmer offers a certain number of “shares” to the public. Customers purchase a share and in return receive a box of seasonal produce each week throughout the farming season. It’s a great way for consumers to buy local, seasonal food directly from a farmer.
Do: JumpLife. A super fun trampoline workout that feels more like playtime than anything else.
My Hero: Erela. My (nearly six-year-old!) daughter inspires me every day.
What inspires you to forgo your fears and embrace change in your own life? I’d love to hear your comments below!
When my good friends at Set Sip Serve asked me to co-host a party with them and gardein, I was excited for the opportunity to mingle with old friends, meet some new ones and learn a thing or two along the way. Set in gardein’s open air loft space and gourmet test kitchen, we were treated to cooking lessons by none other than celebrated vegan chef and author of The Conscious Cook, Tal Ronnen, who made innovative creations using some gardein vegan products. I consider myself a ‘flexitarian’, eating mostly veggie but happy for organic meat when I know where it’s coming from. I was excited to learn about these delicious frozen vegan options and I knew my daughter would be too. Some of the dishes included Cauliflower Bisque, Baby Beet Salad with Candied Walnuts, Apples, Balsamic Garstrique and Kite Hill Almond Cheese, gardein Chick’n Scaloppini Moutarde with Chanterelle Mushrooms and Braised Romaine, Carrot Cake and Ice Cream with Candied Carrots and Toffee Brittle.
The Set Sip Girls girls wowed us with colorful gorgeous place settings with an Indian vibe, making it look so easy! Everything from the fragrant flowers to the tablescape (elephants included!) was perfection. In keeping with the Indian theme, those clever girls even used Stephanie Johnson Mumbai Luggage Tags as a one-of-a-kind place card.
Guests such as Marlien Rentmeester (writer/blogger/stylist, Le Catch), Rose Apodaca and Andy Griffith (co-founders of A+R), Cameron Silver (founder of Decade’s Inc.), Martha McCully (writer and on-air personality), Dana Slatkin (chef and cookbook author) and Emily Procter (actress) departed with gifts including a Stephanie Johnson Mumbai Alicia Carry-All, elephant salt and pepper shakers from Set Sip Serve, a signed copy of Tal Ronnen’s book, and gardein products.
For more inspiration on throwing the perfect event, whether it’s a cozy dinner for two this Valentine’s Day or a gathering for twenty, check out Set Sip Serve online at: www.setsipserve.com
Careyes is the ultimate in a hot, sexy, Mexican hideaway. If you’ve never heard of it, it’s by design. A luxury development tucked away on Mexico’s Pacific coast, Careyes is the home to numerous Sports Illustrated cover shoots, and is the destination of choice for Hollywood types and jet-set internationals for whom privacy is paramount.
It’s not difficult to relax in a place like this, and my first experience with Careyes – on a recent weekend getaway with friends – did not disappoint. Arrival to our private villa had us feasting on freshly made cheese quesadillas, truly out of sight guacamole, and margaritas, as well as the view from our infinity edge pool overlooking the jagged cliffs and ocean below. Hello holiday.
While Careyes boasts no shortage of extravagant comforts, the 3,000+ acre property has a decidedly quirky feel reflecting the eclectic taste of its founder, Italian-born financier and artist, Gian Franco Brignone. His private home fashions an external stairway to the stars with a giant question mark aside a giant explanation point on the roof that must be visible from space. Signage here and there on the vast property has this same ‘?!’ which a friend says is because when asked ‘why Careyes?’ Giancarlo would say ‘Careyes? Careyes!’ Inside a giant ‘stairway to heaven’ leads to a king size mattress under a huge skylight. Careyes?!
Lazy days consisted of reading by the pool, hiking down the cliffs to an ocean dip in the sea below, following along the rocky coast in a boat for more saltwater swimming, and eating from the gorgeous seaside buffet at the ‘club.’ And massages. Plenty of them. At least one a day for at least an hour a piece, on the beach under swaying palms. Crazy nights involved inspired dancing on tabletops under the starry sky and midnight skinny dipping. Ah, Careyes?! Yes, Careyes definitely cast its spell.
I guess it shouldn’t come as a surprise that this trip – the brightly-painted bungalows, the seaside revelry, the stunning stretches of beach, and Careyes’s distinctly bohemian sensibility – stayed with me long after my return to Manhattan. So much so, it’s the inspiration behind our Stephanie Johnson Careyes Collection, new for Spring 2014. Get to know the Careyes Collection – and take a peek at what I packed for this magical getaway – on next week’s post, Style Guide: Careyes.